Please welcome Theresa Meyers to the blog today! Theresa is the author of The Hunter, The Vampire Who Loved Me, The Truth About Vampires and much more! Her brand new book, Shadowlander, just came out, and she’s here to talk about sisterhood and the role it plays in Shadowlander. Also up for grabs is one e-copy of Shadowlander to one lucky winner, so be sure to see the giveaway details at the end of the post!
The Ties of Sisterhood
Writers are often told, write what you know. There are many that say the ties of sisterhood are some of the strongest around. Now I don’t know that from personal experience because my only sibling is male, but I believe it. I remember being so desperate to have a sister I actually asked my mother if we could buy one for Christmas. (I was young, really young…that’s my only defense.)
There was simply something missing. An intangible bond I was searching for. Over the course of my life I’ve “found” sisters. My nearest and dearest friends who’ve shared many ups and downs with me. First there was Dawn Albright in grade school. We did everything together. In fact I think I spent most of sixth grade and at least half of seventh living at her house or her at mine, even during the school week. But then I had to move to a different state where I met Diana Cash, who suffered being a new-from-a-big-city-living-in-a-small-town, right along with me. We did everything together. And in some ways we had a parallel existence that was almost frightening. We both had step-dads, we both had much younger half-brothers. We both had uber strict parents who were very involved in their faith. We both married our high school sweethearts and we were both in one another’s weddings. But then life changed, and we changed. I still adore Diana, would still do anything for her, but our lives have diverged to a point where we only get to see one another now and then.
When I moved to Washington I found Karla Baehr and Jennifer Hansen. Karla never had sisters either, but it’s so dang easy to be around one another that it’s almost no effort. We like many of the same things, but we’re happy to be different people and have our families. Her kids are so much like my own (because they’ve grown up in each other’s pockets) that they’re really more like cousins than friends. Our husbands work together (which is how we met) and I always know exactly what Karla is thinking because she freely speaks her mind (which I love). Jenny is apparently raising my son, only a few years in advance (because my son acts so much like her middle son, it’s eerie. I can see exactly what I’m going to be up against in two years time). And I’m apparently raising her daughter (since she has only boys and my girl loves her). Both of these women are my “found” family. The family you pick rather than the ones you are born to. And I’m eternally grateful for every one of these amazing women who’ve been part of my life and become my “sisters”.
These kinds of relationships have helped me in working with my characters, the O’Connell sisters. They are so much alike in that they share the same odd family ability to see the fae, yet they are so very different. Sometimes they rub each other the wrong way, but ultimately every single one of them would do anything for her sisters. I get that. I’m fortunate to have my “sisters” who give me that same safety net in real life.
Catherine – Cate – (the heroine in my latest novella Shadowlander) is the eldest. She’s more of a mother hen to her sisters, but really wishes she could have her own time and space to indulge herself for a moment without having to worry about everyone else. She needs to be nurtured. And as the eldest she most keenly feels the loss of their mother. Margaret (Maggie) is my humanitarian, always trying to bring the sisters in harmony with one another and thinking about the bigger cause. Clare is more intuitive than her sisters, but at the same time doesn’t always trust what’s she’s told. She’s the one who has to analyze and know all the answers before she’ll make a decision, but once made, she’ll work tirelessly to make it happen. Jane, the youngest, is a bit of a free spirit. She wants to see and do and experience everything and dares anyone to stop her.
Each is very different, but in so many ways they are alike. They all value family. They all realize that their sight makes them have to hide their abilities from others. They all need a path to become who they were truly meant to be.
That’s a little insight into the ties of sisterhood of my characters, and myself. They say write what you know. I say, write what you discover.
What’s your most memorable moment with your sisters (regardless of if you were born with them or found them)?